A quote from the book The Power of Respect by Deborah Norville:
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There are two definitions of respect…. What makes me feel respected is not always what makes you feel respected. I tell couples that real giving is when you give your partner what he wants, whether you understand or not, whether you like it or not, whether you agree or not. That is completely irrelevant….. Often it takes conversation to find out what the partner needs- and careful listening to understand what they are really saying.”
Another book that is worth considering is The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman.
While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language?
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Thanks for sharing this! I just might have to get Deborah’s book. I have read the 5 Love Languages for Couples which is excellent.
I loved the 5 Love Languages– so helpful! I hadn’t heard of the Respect book; sounds great!
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I’m not married, but this book is helpful in all walks of life. Understanding certain friends’ love languages made our relationship even stronger than it was.
I’m always on the lookout for recommended self-improvement books. Thanks Diane! And I must say it again: GORGEOUS blog!!
Ha! No, we do NOT speak the same language. LOL I have to look beneath what he says to see how he really feels.
My husband and I do not always speak the same language but we notice when things need to be fixed and then try and communicate more effectively. Sometimes we go for little stretches where we don’t communicate well, but for the most part, we do okay. This is especially true right now as we’ve become full-time empty nesters with both “kids” away at college. Loved your post! It is certainly relevant.
Love language book is very practical. It help your communication style to focus on the receiver rather than yourself
When I owned a bookstore I sold the 5 love languages all the time! great book!
I am going to have to have to check out both of the books.
Really sounds interesting. May have to pick that one up. Thanks!